Truth Be Told

Have you heard the song "Truth Be Told" by Matthew West? I think this song is spot on! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9XsZi9QT6a8

How many of us say "I'm fine" when we're not?

I would say this is especially true for bereaved parents, after our son died I realized I had to create a public face that said "I'm fine" because I quickly realized when someone asked how I was doing, often times they were not ready to hear the truth. So I began saying "I'm fine" to make it easier for them even though it could not have been further from the truth.

Why are we so uncomfortable around those who are struggling? We try to avoid tears and emotions, what does that say about us? Some even try to justify why it's okay not to help others, they think "I already have a lot on my plate I can't possibly help someone else with their issues" right?! We don't want our lives to be inconvenienced or disrupted by someone else's burdens, but this behavior is not following God's word, the Bible tells us we should be there for each other.

Galatians 6:2 Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Generally when we hear someone has problems our first reaction is "how can I fix their problem" and yet they are not looking for a solution, we just need to offer a listening ear, compassion and empathy.

Perhaps you are a bereaved parent or grandparent yourself and you have had a similar experience.

What grief has taught me is that grief IS messy, but despite that we should never shy away from it. Look for ways to help those who are struggling. Volunteer your time, be a blessing to those in need. Remember at some point in our lives we will all be a person who needs help. It's just that our circumstances may be different that's all.

If you are a bereaved parent who is struggling to find a support system I encourage you to reach out to one of these support groups Bereaved Parents of the USA https://www.bereavedparentsusa.org/ which was the support system we turned to and benefited tremendously from and I know Compassionate Friends is another great organization that offers support to bereaved parents as well. https://www.compassionatefriends.org/ support groups are crucial to you moving forward on your grief journey!

If you have experienced a great support system besides the two listed above, will you share your story? I hope so, it's helpful to hear what has helped others move beyond their grief, thanks for sharing your journey with us!

Written by: Jill Theriault

Crossroads Coaching - @crossroadscoachingongodstime