Firm Foundation

Experiencing the death of a loved one or friend can be truly devastating, I found this to be true when my Dad, Grandparents, Cousin, Aunts & Uncles died. But for me experiencing the death of my child was like none other, I'm sure you can relate as well if you're a bereaved parent. It literally rocked my foundation.

Through being a chapter leader for Bereaved Parents of the USA and my own personal experience, I've learned it can take years to rebuild. But the good news is you can rebuild, but to do so, we must be patient with the process as we try to find the new normal in our lives.

When building a home we can't just put up walls & start framing it in. First we have to build a strong foundation. By doing so the home is able to withstand storms as they arise. Just as in life we need to make sure we have a firm foundation for when we endure the pains of life. If our foundation is weak it will be difficult to weather the storms.

Luke 6:46-48

"Why do you call me, 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say? I will show you what he is like who comes to me and hears my words and puts them into practice. He is like a man building a house, who dug down deep and laid the foundation on a rock. When a flood came, the torrent struck that house but could not shake it, because it was well built.

Part of rebuilding our foundation is surrounding yourself with a support system where you can talk about your child, share your tears & emotions. Hopefully you have this with your family & friends. If not, I encourage you to join a bereaved parents support group, because I found it comforting to be with those who can relate to your pain.

If your faith is wavering, know this is not uncommon. For some faith becomes their life line. I have often reminded parents that God has broad shoulders, he can handle our anger & pain, especially because He experienced the death of his own son. Gods understands how devastated you are; allow his Word to bring you comfort & hope! My faith has helped me move beyond my grief & I hope over time yours will too.

At some point we have to rebuild our foundation & accept that it will be different. It will be built with tools we've gained from our grief journey. You'll even pour your heart & soul into it and because of this, it will be stronger.

Let's rebuild our lives by finding ways to honor our children.

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

Written by: Jill Theriault

Crossroads Coaching - @crossroadscoachingongodstime